how to amend a broken relationship

how to amend a broken relationship

â  oprah:â when i was reading this i was thinking about, who are the people i need to clean up things with?â  to be in that space of cleaning up. and to be able to be in the position to say, what did i do to hurt you?â  how did i hurt you?â  what could i have done better?â  you all did all of that.â â  â  elizabeth:â â yes, we did.â  â  oprah:â â yeah.â  â  elizabeth:â â and we did it because, as i said, we wanted to teach our cells to do the same thing when they got into her body. you know, like don't attack.â  don't reject. so we went through that, how did i hurt you?â  how did i hurt you?â  will you forgive me? and --â  â  oprah:â â wow, isn't that --

that is so powerful. and as you say that, i think about all the people who are listening to us right now who have been hurt or hurt other people and how simple it would be just to --â  â  elizabeth:â â it is.â  it's so simple.â  â  oprah:â â -- enter the space of peace with that by saying, how did i hurt you?â  â  elizabeth:â â how did i hurt you?â  tell me. and then to listen.â  then to listen.â  it's very hard not to get defensive.â  â  oprah:â â yeah, not to get defensive.â  â  elizabeth:â â and this is why having aâ therapist -- we only met with him twice.â  he taught us how to do it on our own.â  we then spent months.â  â  oprah:â â how to really listen and not start with your, i didn't mean that and i can't believe you felt that.â  â  elizabeth:â â that's right.â  really his only job the whole time

was, like, wait a minute.â  let her finish. and that's -- so it's simple.â  but it's not easy.â  and sometimes you need help.â  â  oprah:â â mm-hmm.â  â  elizabeth:â â and not everyone is safe to do it with. this is an important point.â  â  oprah:â â yes.â  yeah.â  â  elizabeth:â â yeah.â  â  oprah:â â that's not just important.â  that's essential.â  you have to be in agreement to do it.â  â  elizabeth:â â you do.â  â  oprah:â â you can't do it with somebody who is still caring -- who still wants to hold onto the anger.â  â  elizabeth:â â that's right.â  and i can assureâ you, it doesn't work.â  because i have tried.â  â  oprah:â (laughter.)â  â  elizabeth:â â over and over sometimes with the same person.â  â  oprah:â â really.â  â  elizabeth:â â yes.â  you know, i came out of the experience, like,

okay, i'mâ gonnaâ clean it up.â  â  oprah:â â yeah.â  â  elizabeth:â â but there are some people who it will threaten, there's some people who really don't want to go there and who are so wounded that they just still feel they have to wound other people. you know, maya angelou has a wonderful line. be careful when a naked man offers you a shirt.â  oprah:â â yeah.â  â  elizabeth:â â and she said that after she said something, like, i don't trust people who say, i love you, when they don't love them self. so to me, that's what you look for is this person same safe for me to be vulnerableâ with?

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  1. Stephanie AdamsDecember 14, 2019 at 4:02 AM

    I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is (Great Matatan powerful Spell ), he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 4 years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Sydney, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is:(  matatanspell@yahoo.com .  )  

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