how to get over a man

hi ladies, welcome to my latest and greatestdating advice video. this time, the topic is how to get over yourex and move on as quickly as possible. so, if you’re dealing with some post-breakupblues right now, you’re watching the right video… i’m going to share several little-knowntricks for minimizing heartache and moving on as quickly as possible after your breakup. you probably already know who i am, but forany new viewers out there, my name is amy north… i’m a women’s dating coach from canada,and i’m the owner of coachnorth.com, my

popular ladies-only website featuring freerelationship guidance videos. so, enough self-promotion…. let’s talk about how to recover from a breakupwith the least possible heartache. the very first thing you’ll want to do aftera breakup is to remove obvious reminders of your ex -- photos of you together, stuffedanimals and love notes, jewellery, etc -- and either toss them in the trash, or stuff themin a box and put it in storage. once you’re fully healed and over your ex,then you can open the box and decide what you want to keep, but until then you reallydon’t need to be constantly reminded of him.

this also applies to your ex’s phone number. if you find yourself tempted to text or callhim, but you know that’s not something that you should be doing, then deleting his contactdetails from your phone is an easy solution. this doesn’t work if you’ve got his numbermemorized, obviously, but it definitely does help if you lack self-control or you’rethe type to send drunk texts when you’re emotional. you can write down your ex’s number andgive it to a friend for safekeeping until you’re fully over him. now, as a little side note here, i’ve beenfortunate enough to work with brad browning

frequently in the past… he is arguably theworld’s #1 breakup expert, and brad recently shared with me a new tactic for recoveringfrom a breakup that i absolutely love. he suggests writing down a big list of allthe things you hated about your ex boyfriend, or all the things he did or said over yourtime together that pissed you off or upset you. maybe he had an annoying habit, maybe he unfairlycriticized your friends, or maybe you absolutely despised the t-shirt he wore all the time…. doesn’t matter how big or small they are,just write down absolutely everything you aren’t going to miss about your ex.

then, any time you’re feeling down and missingyour ex like mad, whip out the list and read through it to remind yourself that he wasn’tperfect and there are many ways in which you’re better off without him. another thing i’ve learned from brad aboutbreakups is related to “closure”... he says it’s natural for most people to seekout the reasons why their relationship ended. i’ve noticed this working with my own coachingclients, as well… it’s as though people feel like they need to hear some magic wordsfrom their ex in order to accept the breakup and move on. i understand that feeling, but i also agreewith brad that it’s never a good idea to

chase your ex and try to get him to explainhis thinking or answer your questions. the reality is that nothing he’s going saywill give you the sense of closure that you’re looking for. like i said, brad browning is perhaps thebest-known and most-respected breakup expert out there, so please check out his youtubechannel or visit beatthebreakup.com for more of his tricks and tips for getting over yourex practically overnight…. again, that’s www.beatthebreakup.com. now, let’s move along here and talk brieflyabout emotions. let’s not kid ourselves here, ladies….

breakups are emotional. crying is inevitable. and it’s ok to lie at home with a box ofkleenex for the first 24 or 48 hours after your breakup. but after a day or two feeling sorry for yourself,that type of thing is no longer acceptable, and it will start to prolong the heartacheinstead of healing it. so, by the time 48 hours has passed sincethe breakup, you should definitely not be sitting at home alone crying, you should beout occupying yourself and keeping your mind off your ex.

speaking of which, you know what the verybest resource is when it comes to overcoming a breakup? your friends. this is one of those times where you can leanon your friends to support you and make sure you’re busy enough doing fun stuff thatthere’s no time to think about the breakup. do whatever you can to stay busy for the firstcouple of weeks after you break up… i don’t care whether you feel like goingout with the girls or not, you’re going. trust me, this is the best thing you can doto take your mind off you ex boyfriend. now is also a great time to make new friends,expand your social circle, and try new hobbies

or activities that will allow you meet lotsof new people. if you embrace this type of stuff after atough breakup, it often feels as though you’ve gone through a life transformation that isactually going to leave you better off than if you had stayed with your ex. use the opportunity to ‘reset’ your lifeand go back to pursuing some of those goals or dreams you’d pushed to the sidelineswhen you were in a relationship. sometimes, taking up new hobbies, meetingnew people, and chasing life dreams can really put you out of your comfort zone. it can be scary, especially when you’vebecome so accustomed to spending every night

in your pajamas watching seinfeld re-runs…but that’s what you want. you want to use this opportunity to steeryour life in a new, positive direction, and that’s always going to be a bit scary atfirst. but it’s also going to help you get throughthis breakup faster and with less heartache, so it’s time to face those fears and justgo for it. now, earlier i talked about the importanceof your friends in helping you get past the breakup… but there’s one particular friendshipthat is definitely not a good idea at this point. i’m talking about being friends with yourex, which is just a downright bad idea regardless

of how emotional you’re feeling or how cordialthe breakup was. it might be a possibility in the future, butplease take my word for it when i say that trying to maintain a friendship with yourex in the first weeks and months after a breakup is a terrible idea that will only prolongyour sadness and loneliness. breakup specialists like brad browning prettymuch universally agree on this point… so, resist the temptation to be friends with yourex guy, and avoid contact with him as much as possible. ok, i’ve got one final tip for you beforei wrap this video up… and this one is really important, even though it may not directlyseem like it, it will help you move on from

your ex and the breakup. please don’t try to get revenge on yourex, spread rumours about him, or do anything else like that. i don’t care how much of a dick your exwas or how often he treated you like crap, trying to get back at him or bad-mouthinghim at every opportunity won’t make you feel any better in the long run… and itprobably won’t even be satisfying in the moment, either. so resist the urge to slash the tires on hiscar, tell the world his embarrassing secrets, etc… that kind of thing ends up reflectingpoorly on you, it makes you less attractive

to potential future boyfriends, and it’sjust not a constructive, grown-up way to handle a breakup. that’s it for this video, folks. thanks for watching, as always, and pleaseplease please do me a big favour and show your support by subscribing to my channelhere on youtube…. do that for me and i promise to personallyanswer your questions in the comments below and continuing making free videos like thisone. for more help with your breakup and your lovelife in general, my website is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week… the url is www.coachnorth.com,and that’s where you can also find my contact

info and details about my 1-on-1 skype coachingservices. thanks again for all your support ladies…good luck, i’ll see you again soon!