what to say to your ex to get him back

so you want your ex back, but you don’tknow what to say to them. you ponder and ponder and ponder, but you’re drawing blanks. suddenly,out of the blue, you get a text message or email from your ex. your heart races, butyou just don’t have the faintest clue what to say to them… so what do you do? whatcan you say to them that will make him or her want to give your relationship a secondchance? well, today, you’re in luck. because in this video, i’ll teach you exactly howto respond to your ex to ensure you have the best possible chance of rekindling that sparkand getting a second chance. by the way, my name’s brad browning. i’ma relationship and marriage expert from vancouver, canada. i’ve spent the last decade of mylife studying why people break up… and i’ve

developed a system to reverse these breakups.i’ll tell you a little bit more about my system in just a minute… so let’s get started. in my other videos,i talk a little bit about what you need to do directly after your breakup. if you haven’twatched those videos yet, then i highly encourage you to check them out first before watchingthis video. in some of my other youtube videos, i talk a little bit about what i call the“no contact” period and why it’s one of the most important tools to use directlyafter a breakup, along with several other useful post-breakup tips. now it’s important to keep things in perspective.just because your ex messaged you does not

mean he or she wants to get back togetherright away. there are a myriad of reasons why your ex needs to get in contact with you,so don’t overreact and keep your cool. for now, your goal is to simply establish positiverapport with your ex. remember, there’s no “secret sentence” that you can sayto fix things and establish a new, healthy relationship with your ex right now – gettingyour ex back will most likely take some time. so without further adieu, here are 5 tipsto help you respond to your ex’s text messages. 1.) don’t reply right away. if you’reresponding to your ex’s text messages within seconds, you’ll look like you’re desperatelywaiting for your ex to contact you. instead, for now, wait an hour or more to reply toyour ex’s text messages. or if your ex calls,

don’t be afraid to let the call go to voicemailand then call your ex back. the goal here is to regain the power that you’ve lostduring the breakup by showing your ex that you’re completely over him or her. now,don’t make it seem too obvious that you’re purposely delaying your replies or ignoringyour ex... it has to look natural – so mix it up a little bit and keep your ex guessing.2.) always sound upbeat and positive. this one’s pretty self-explanatory, but i seea lot of my clients try to incite an argument or cause drama as soon as they’re in contactwith their ex. i can tell you that there’s nothing less attractive to your ex than startinganother war with him or her. so remember, never try and confront your ex about yourpast relationship, don’t ask who they’ve

been dating, and last but not least, do notask them for a second chance just yet. i know it’ll be difficult for some of you to do,but this is very important right now. i mean, put yourself in your ex’s shoes for justa minute -- do you want to talk to a person that’s constantly trying to stir the pot?of course not. people generally want to be surrounded with happy, positive people…so do your best to be that kind of person. 3.) show your ex that you’re keeping busy.not only do you need to sound positive and upbeat, but you need to convey to him or herthat you only have a limited amount of time. if you always seem available to chat, it mightlook like that you have no life or that you haven’t been able to do anything since thebreakup. if you’ve watched my other videos,

then you know that a huge part of making yourex want you again is to display what i call “attractive characteristics.” one of themost “attractive characteristics” you can portray is to always be busy and looklike you have a life. now, i have a huge list of these “attractive characteristics”that i’d like to share with you but i don’t have time in this video. if you want to learnmore about them, then i encourage you to watch the free video on my website, breakupbrad.com.in that video, i’ll teach you my 3-step plan to ensure that your ex feels more attractedto you than ever. again, the url to the video is breakupbrad.com, so head over to that websiteright after this video. 4.) keep your messages brief. to start, youwant to keep all interactions with your ex

as brief as possible. don’t be curt or rude,but don’t bend over backwards to tell your ex everything that’s going on in your life.by doing so, you might blow it and your ex may get an inkling that you miss him or her.don’t let this happen. instead, send short messages with interesting questions to keepthe conversation going. if your ex is sending you short messages, make sure you don’tgive in and force a conversation. you’re busy too, remember? you can always initiatea more meaningful conversation another time. 5.) finally, make sure you’re the one toend the conversation. remember, in order to take the power back between you and your ex,you need to be the one calling the shots. you need to be the one in control. that meansthat you need to begin and end conversations

on your terms. so once you feel like the conversationis about to go dull or sour, then quickly say that you have some plans with a few friendslater… and then tell them to text you the next day. you don’t have to say anythingmore or anything less, just keep it simple and move on. of course, this isn’t an exhaustive listof tips on how you can respond to your ex’s text messages, but it’s a good start. iknow, you’re probably brimming with questions at this point… so if you’re wanting toask me a question, then please feel free to ask them in the comments section below. alternatively, you can hire me as your breakupcoach and ask me questions directly. for more

details on how you can get personal e-mailcoaching from me, just go to www.breakupbrad.com/coaching. again that url is breakupbrad.com/coaching. that’s all for this video, folks! talk toyou soon.