advice to a broken hearted

- i have been broken upwith a couple of times. - lots of times. - i have never been broken up with. - i have been broken up with. - no, yeah, i've been totally(laughs) broken up with. i think most of the timesi've done the breaking up, but this last one, i got broken up with, and it was really devastating. buzzfeed presents womentalk about heartbreak

what's the worst way you've been dumped? - i was pretty convincedthis guy and i were dating, and then he told a mutual friend of ours that we were just friends and he was sorry i misunderstood the situation, and he never talked to me about that. - so he was driving from new york, preparing to break up with me, and i was lightingcandles in the hotel room

and filling the tub with bubble bath and buying his favorite beer, so we both had very different ideas of how that night was going to end. we both had to stay inthat hotel that night after he broke up with me. - we were together forfour and a half years and he broke up with me over the phone. - the shittiest way someonehas broken up with me

is by showing up on a redcarpet with another girl. yep. what's the worst wayyou have dumped someone? - i didn't make it clear thati was breaking up with him, so i told him that i wanted to slow down and to take a step back to being friends, and i thought that heknew what that meant, and then, a week or two later, he was like, "you want to be done dating.

"i wish you'd just saidthat," and it was really bad. - this one time i was talking on the phone with a boyfriend, and hewas telling me (laughs) he just got a power drilland he kept whirring it in the background, andat some point i said, "if you do that one moretime, i'm hanging up "and i'm never speaking toyou again," and he did it, and i (laughs) hung upand that was our breakup. i refused to talk tohim (laughs) ever again.

- i basically was running after him, and he thought that iwanted to get back with him, and instead, i broke up with him, and i took the keys tomy apartment from him, and it was really bad. i think he was in a badsituation in his life, and i dumped him at his worst, and i think for him, it waslike everything was crumbling and the last thing thatwas going to fall was me.

how do you know when arelationship should end? - when they can't laughwhen things go wrong, and i know that not all situationswhen things are going bad can you laugh at, but ithink that it's a sign when instead of finding away to kind of bond together against whatever the badthing is that happened, you turn on each other. - you stop getting excited to see them, and that's kind of when you know

you're really not interested. - it's very intangible, but when somebody just doesn't like you for you anymore, it's over. - i think it's really hard. i mean you just see a personthat you're really close to and you love, and youtry to overlook a lot of things all the time,and i don't really know. i don't really know.

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