healing after breakup

hey it's brad browning here and in this videoi'm going to teach you how to get your girlfriend back. so if you want to get back togetherwith your ex girlfriend then this is the video for you. now just to warn you, this is goingto be a brief overview. if you need more information, more in depth, head over to my website, breakupbrad.com.i've got a more in-depth video presentation there that you can watch for free. breakupbrad.com.so, let's get started with the important parts of getting your girlfriend back. the firstphase that you need to go through to get your girlfriend back is the recovery phase. whyrecovery? well because you need to get to the point where you're emotionally stableenough. you've gotten passed the worst of the heartache and loneliness and all the otheremotions that come in the wake up a breakup

and you've gotten to the point where you canthink rationally, make good decisions, and avoid making any mistakes that are going topush her even further away from you. and i know you might be thinking to yourself, atthis point, why do i have to recover? i want her back. i don't want to get over her, ijust want her back! well, that may be the case, but again, you need to be emotionallystable. you need to be able to make good decisions. so how do you recover? how do you get overher? how do you get to the point where you're in that better frame of mind to make thosedecisions. well for starters, you want to ignore your ex girlfriend completely for 30days after the breakup. this is critical and i will explain more in a minute but you definitelydo not want to be talking to your ex for around

30 days after the breakup. you also want toremove any reminders of her from your life. so take that picture of you and her on theholidays, put it in a box, take the love notes put them in a box, whatever it is, take allthe things that will remind you of her and put them away for awhile. just keep the remindersout of your life. you don't want to be thinking about her right now. and finally, occupy yourtime. stay busy. hang out with friends you know, go to the gym. pickup a new hobby. goon some dates with some other girls. even though you don't want to, i know you wantyour ex girlfriend back, but still. go out on some dates. keep busy during this time,this recovery period for the first 30 days after the breakup. now once you've sufficientlygone through the recovery period, then you're

going to want to move on to the rekindlingperiod. this is the second of three phases of getting your girlfriend back and this involvestwo things essentially. one: making your ex miss you. now if you've successfully gonethrough the recovery period like i just described, you've actually already done most of the hardwork here. because, think about it, what makes you miss someone? well, your girlfriend wascompletely accustomed to having you in their life everyday. you were there for her, youtalked to her on the phone everyday, you were there for dinner every night. whatever itwas, you became part of her daily life. and then, after the breakup, she ignored you?or excuse me, when you ignored her, all of a sudden you were gone from her life completely.cold turkey. boom, you vanished right after

the breakup. and because she was so accustomedto having you there, the shock of not having you there is going to make her miss you likecrazy. and you need that, it's really important. that's one of the reasons why the no contactphase is so important and so efficient and effective at making her want you back. andthat's key. you need her to want you back and one of reasons she's going to want youback is because she's going to miss you like crazy because you simply vanished from herlife. once you successfully gone through the 30 days of no contact, you've recovered tothe point where you're feeling a little better, and you've made your ex wait 30 days beforeyou've contacted her again. you're at the point where you're ready to reach out andestablish communication. but wait, you gotta

be ready for this for sure before you startsending her messages and calling her. you want to be strategic about this. you don'twant to just send her a text message that just says "hey, how's it going?" that's whati call a pointless text. it's not going to do anything to help your case. you need tobe like i said extremely strategic and you need to have a plan. again, if you want tosee more about this, go to my website breakupbrad.com and i'll give you some examples on how youcan reach out and make the first contact. but the most important thing when you firstcontact your ex is, well there's two things really. one: you want to keep any communicationsuper fun, happy, casual, upbeat... no drama, no negativity, no discussion about your relationship.just really fun, interesting, funny stuff

whatever if it's a text message or a phonecall, just keep it upbeat, fun and show her a good time. and keep it really brief. don'tgo on and on and get into a lengthy conversation. at this point, keep it brief and keep it fun.the goal of the first contact her is to just get her thinking about you. and also in thefirst few contacts, you might need to text her a few times when you move into the nextre-attraction phase or just to generally reshape her opinion of you into a more positive image.you can do this several ways, like i already mentioned, text messages and phone calls bybringing up shared, happy memories. you can also show her how well you're doing sincethe breakup and show her that you've become the same man that she fell in love with inthe first place. so, basically you've started

to do all the things that may have changedduring the relationship that may have caused the breakup. that's important. you want towork on self-improvement during those first 30 days and even after that. and then youneed to share that with her. at this point this is where you're just starting to sharethat. and finally, the last thing you need to do during these first few contacts withyour ex girlfriend is make her a little bit jealous. be careful with that, but if you'vebeen out with her on a couple dates, post a picture of you with another girl on facebookor make a comment about how great life has been or how many new friends you've made,whatever it is, just a little bit of jealous with the reminders of positive memories shehas and showing her the new you, the better

you. and that you've come a long way sincethe breakup. and finally, the third phase, re-attraction. this is just what the firstfew phases has been preparing you for and leading up to. so like i said, you've alreadygone through no contact, you've recovered to the point where you're okay, you've madeyour ex miss you, you've got her to start thinking about you by sending some positivetext messages and showing her that you're still that fun guy that she fell for. nowit's time to arrange and in-person meeting. so you need to think of a way, make an excuse,meet her for coffee, go out for drinks after work. basically just get a chance to meether in person, to flirt with her, to rebuild some of that sexual tension, some of thatpassion and that romantic, physical connection

that you had before the breakup, before thingsbegan to deteriorate in your relationship. again, the goal is to meet her in person andjust like the text message or the phone call when you're starting contact, keep it positive,keep it fun. make her smile, bring up happy memories, no drama, keep it short. eventually,you're going to want to get to the point where you establish the physical romance. sex! womanoften associate sex with romantic and serious relationships in a way that men often don't.there's a lot of evolutionary science behind it. the core, or the thing that you need tounderstand is that women associate sex with relationships. you want to get to the pointwhere you got the physical aspect of your relationship back. and at that point, you'reno longer a friend, you're no longer an ex,

you're starting to move into the relationshipzone again even if she doesn't admit it actively. so i know i left a lot out here but i wantedto keep the video pretty short. so again if you need more information or you want to learnmore, head over to my website, breakupbrad.com i got a free video presentation where i gomore in-depth. you can also get my email address there and shoot me an email message. thanksvery much for watching, please consider liking the video if you've found it helpful and subscribeto my channel i got a lot of videos on related topics that you might find interesting. thanksvery much for watching, bye bye for now!